Am a 22-year-old girl who just graduated from d uni. Av bin dating a guy 4 d past 5 years nd we’ve practically done everything 2geda. We started aving issues in my 4th year in skol nd dis eventually led 2 our brk up, I can say dat d brk up was due 2 my own carelessness bcos at some point in d relationship I got bored nd started aving so many male frnds which my boyfrnd objected to he warned me several times bur I neva listened cos I was beginning to enjoy d attention I got from oda guys. He eventually confronted his worst fear which was breaking up with me nd now dat he has I now realise how bad I want him back bur d sad part is he now has a new girl frnd. He claims to still love me bur at d same time he doesn’t want to hurt his new girlfrnd by breaking her heart. Am still very much in love with him nd I wish to wait 4 him I want to knw if I still av any chances with him or I shuld just try nd move on.
Thanks Miss P.
Dear Miss P,
How are you doing? Sorry this took awhile. Congratulations on your graduation.
Firstly when you say you sought attention from other guys, do you mean just hanging out with them or being friends? Did you actually cheat on him? If yes, then apart from him having someone else, he would also have trust issues as well. And I am sorry to say so but you acted selfish and spoilt but it’s good that you have acknowledged your mistake and taken responsibility for your action. Sometimes, when a man loves you too much and shows how far he’s willing to go to ensure that your relationship works out, you tend to take him for granted. And that is what happened.
When people are in bad relationships, one of the most difficult decisions to make is to let go. Even when they know that it is in their best interest to break out of that destructive relationship, they still stay. Now your boyfriend has confronted his ‘greatest fear’, and what is more, he has moved on. Yes, he would probably still have feelings for you, but…….I would not advise you to wait for him or encourage him or break up with his current girlfriend. If it is fated to be, it would happen. Without any contrived effort on your part. Or his. Ok?
Just do your thing, concentrate on the next part of your life, NYSC, getting a job and everything else would eventually fall in place. Xoxo