Dear Mimmysays,
I’m looking to buy my wife a vibrator as a gift for her birthday and I have no clue which would be the best one to choose. I’m not looking to spend a lot of money but would be happy to get her something sexual for her birthday. Which would you choose if it were you, seeing as you are a woman? She also isn’t very eager to discuss sexual matters with me or tell me about what her preferences would be. I really like to experiment and I love my wife and want us to have a fulfilling sex life, I wouldn’t want to cheat in my marriage, so I want to experience all my fantasies with her.
Chad – Micheal.
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Dear Chad-Micheal,
Awww, what a sweet attitude you’ve got to marriage. I like that you have decided not to cheat, most men don’t consciously make that decision. When it comes vibrators however, er, I think every woman has her own preference, so it’s totally her decision to make. Tough question. That’s like asking me to pick out the perfect pair of panties. I tell you to go with the Brazilian thong and she hates the feeling of a shoe string going through her crack. Instead, she prefers lace booty shorts. Big strike-out. Lol….What that perfect panty metaphor is supposed to illustrate is that each woman is different and she’ll have her own specific needs and taste.
What makes this even more difficult is there are tons of vibrators on the market and I’m sure stores would never allow for sex toy returns. Can you blame them? Image may be NSFW.
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I have only actually seen a vibrator on the internet or pictures in magazines, so I am not in a position to give advice. Which is why it isn’t at all odd that your wife has zero knowledge of sex toys, I believe many Nigerian women are like that, our society not being that permissive in such matters.
Here’s my suggestion: buy her a magazine that has illustrations of different sex toys, then, include a heartfelt card expressing how much you care for her and what she means to you. Make her feel special. At the end of the card, add that you would like to take her shopping together for the perfect sex toy.
How will you look to her? Like a confident, sex-positive, supportive boyfriend. A good gift-giver too. This might make some people nervous or uncomfortable to talk about sex toys or buy one together. But let’s be honest here, if you can’t talk about sex or shop for sex, should you be having it?
